Nice to see the use of EMDR being recognised for more than PTSD and Battlefield Trauma. Events we all may encounter, such as grief, traffic accidents, and any large upset in life can be stored as a trauma by the brain.
As a rule of thumb if something still hurts as if it had just happened, two years after it actually happened then your mind may have locked-in that hurt and be struggling with it. If so you’ll feel stressed, may have poor sleep, and often withdraw from things you used to enjoy doing.
Thankfully there are several therapies which have a body of evidence for overcoming trauma. They are: Eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing, Cognitive-processing therapy, Prolonged-exposure therapy, & Stress-inoculation training.
You don’t have to continue to suffer with the pain of trauma.
Change is easier than you think.