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Of late I’ve found myself talking a lot about holding back.

That sense of not being able to focus or push through, which distracts us into time wasting. Rather than do what we need to do we waste time on Facebook, Netflix, mindless games etc. Usually with a sense of ‘why bother, it won’t work’, ‘there’s too much to do to even start’, ‘I can’t do that’. Speaking at the Midlands Career Expo I meet people who held off on doing up their CV’s until the day before, people who couldn’t approach the business the wanted to speak to as fear welled up when they approached the stand, people who were desperately trying not to be noticed while at the same time looking for a job. It sounds crazy, bit it’s perfect normal when we’re stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, or suffering trauma.…
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5 Top reasons people stay stuck in Anxiety.

    Sometimes people will know they’re anxious. They’ll even say things like ‘I’m too anxious to do that’, they will worry all the time, always see the negative, lie awake unable to sleep, rerun conversations, even have panic about travel or groups of people etc. and yet they endure. What is it that makes it so easy to stay stuck in anxiety? Here are five of the most common factors I see around this. 1. Fear of admitting the truth. This is the biggest. Anxiety makes us worry about people finding out we’re anxious. ‘They’d think I’m mad if they knew’ is a common feeling. We also don’t want to admit it to ourselves. It’s easier to think something just ‘isn’t for us’ or ‘I’m introverted’ and so on…
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Talking about trauma can be painful and difficult. One of the nice things about EMDR is that you don't need to talk it out. That's not what creates change here. "EMDR is an interesting approach in that while it is used in identifying and treating specific traumatic events, the process doesn’t actually require the client to get into the exact details of their experience." Nice to see that called out in this piece on addiction resulting from Trauma. Trauma can have a lot of impact and it's not all Posttraumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD! Most trauma simply adds stress on a daily basis even when we're not thinking about it. Hope you're having a great day, John https://www.thefix.com/when-trauma-leads-addiction
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Why I hate ‘Introvert’

  “I’m just an anxious person”. “I’m too anxious to do that”. “That’s not me”. “I’m not good enough to do that”. How often do we hear people say this when they avoid doing something in life? Usually it’s things they would like to do but which have too much worry and fear around them. When we’re anxious a long time we start to think of it as who we are. I know this one all too well having spent decades thinking I was not good enough, stupid, a worrier, and so on. It felt like it was just my personality. It wasn’t! While I’m sure there are introverts out there the word gets used to hide what we’re experiencing. If we’re anxious, a worrier, stressed all the time, we…
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10 common yet misunderstood signs of anxiety (No. 3 held me back big time).

  1. Poor sleep – When we’re stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed we can take ages to fall asleep. The mind just goes round and round without shutting off. When we’re busy in the day we don’t feel it as much but when it’s quiet time then things get hard. For some people it can hit during the night with waking up feeling anxious and have trouble going back to sleep. For some it’ll be the early morning waking and not getting to sleep again. However it hits, disrupted sleep is a huge common denominator when anxiety is present. 2. Re-running conversations – going back over them wondering if I said the wrong thing, did I look foolish, did I upset them and so on is hugely common. For many, like…
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